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It's been a long time since I blogged about Grace.  Since my last blog Pat got a new job in Pennsylvania and life became a blur of the activities of packing, selling our house, buying a new home, moving, and now fixing up our new place and settling in to life in Bucks County, PA.  It's been an exciting time and Grace has swung with all of the changes just beautifully.  As we packed up her toys she helped put them into the boxes.  As her room filled up with boxes and life as she knew it changed once again, she acted as if it was no problem at all. After all, this was her family, and wherever we went, she knew she was going too! And whatever crazy thing we were doing, she knew she was a part of.  


Grace is now running, giving big hugs and kisses, playing with her baby doll, engaging her brothers in wild play at night, saying a loud "Don't!" when life doesn't go her way, and yes - sleeps wonderfully!!  It only took her one year and a move but now she sleeps all night long in her own bed and I got to return to our bed as well.  She takes a good 2+ hour nap and now that I have a little noise machine in her room, she doesn't seem to waken in the middle of it for every little bit of family (or dog) noise!  


She loves puzzles and does them way better than any of our boys ever did at her age.  Since we got her, she has liked things with lots of pieces and now we're seeing that it has reflects an analytical mind.  She will strive to get the puzzle right then dump it out and do it over and over again until it comes with ease.  If we explain something to her, you can be sure that the next time she does it the way you asked, or the way the problem can best best be solved.  She is ever watching us and surprises me again and again when she joins me in some of my tasks with incredible specificity. 


She still is quite attached to her mommy and cries when I leave the room. But with her increasing mobility, it is less of a problem because she just follows me - everywhere!  She likes to grab my face and pull me close and kiss me long and hard on my cheek. Then she smiles that huge wrinkled nose grin of hers that just makes me want to eat her up!  


She loves having her family home for the weekends.  After our long summer together, on Monday mornings for several weeks she would grieve and cry and fuss terribly that they were gone.  But now on weekdays, the first thing she does is look at me and say, "Daddy?" and I will say, "He's at work." and she smiles.  Then she says, "Brubba?"  (for brothers?) and I say,  "They're at school." and she smiles.  Then she says, "Mom Mom?" and I say that she is at her house and she smiles yet again.  Then finally, she says, "Ruff ruff?" for our dog and I say, "He's downstairs." and yet one more smile. It's a lovely way to start each day!


Grace loves babies. If she sees one on TV she shouts "bebbe!!!"  and we have to keep going back 10 sec with our DVR over and over until we tell her "baby must have gone to sleep".  She cries when the baby is gone and gets so very upset.  She now loves her little American Doll itty bitty baby (thank you for the great gift Mr. and Mrs.  Perkins!) and covers her with a blanket, feeds her a bottle, rocks her in her arms, and pats her back.   And did I tell you that she loves it when she gets a bow put in her hair?  She also loves to find my shoes and my purse and put them on and walk around.  Yep, she's a girl, that's for sure!


Grace has been home with us for now just over a year and what a year it was!  Attachment is a real issue with adopted kids and for the most part, I think we weathered the initial storm. I'm sure there are times ahead when we will have to face all of the issues that have created a hole in Grace's life story, but for now, Grace is a happy, well-adjusted, darling little spunky near 2 year old. God created her to be a Fitzpatrick and a Fitzpatrick she is!  What a blessing to have her as ours!!

 
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One Whole Month with my Family!
Happy one month home anniversary to us and to Grace!  Grace was running a fever for the first part of this week but licked it and is back to her sweet wakeful self. I have to admit that having a sleepy baby was kind of nice for a few days!  Overall, however, it's been a month of more firsts, more AND less sleep, more development with sitting, standing, and grasping, and most notably, more attachment.  Below you will find a hodgepodge of pics from this week.  You will find Grace getting help from her brothers for all sorts of fun things, like airplane rides, upside down rides, shoulder rides, piano playing in traditional and novel ways, and yes, drooling.  You'll see Grace learning that glasses are hard to figure out but so is this whole big new world she's in. You'll also see that Grace has learned that her Daddy's chest is a nice big bed and that her doggy is still a curiosity.  She also played wtih a doll this week (thank you Kelly!), and she discovered that her hair is yummy to suck on. 

For Pat and for me, this month has had its fill of change as well and it was easy to see the major advances for us on a week by week basis:
Week One -- Jet Lag and the fog of sleep deprivation as Grace tries to change to our time zone.
                        Thankfully, my Mom was here to help us survive and keep the household running!
Week Two -- Grace is now on our time zone but is not sleeping through the night so sleep deprivation for us continues. 
                        The adjustment curve to life with Grace and our four boys without a tank filled with sleep is difficult.
Week Three -- Grace sleeps a bit more at night, we feel more human, and we see the light at the end of the tunnel.
                         By week's end, Pat and I are laughing and joking with one another again after a long draught of survival mode.
Week Four -- Life is much more manageable and although we still aren't getting a full night of rest, it is enough to function well.
                        We're getting out with Grace and getting into more of a system at home and life is looking and feeling much better!
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'Please hold me?'
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'Come on!! HOLD ME!!'
 
Grace has been home for 4 days and it's a big new world for her.  When I brought her downstairs this morning I noticed that she is still looking at everything with big eyes of curiosity.  She hangs over my arm just to get a view of the tiles on the floor or the rugs, or the knobs on the cabinets.  I can hardly begin to imagine how big this new world of hers is and how daunting it must seem to have everything be so new and strange.  Just 2 weeks ago she was probably spending most of her day on the hip of her Foster mother or in a cardboard box surrounded by blankets.  Her world consisted of most likely a few small rooms and I doubt she got out much beyond the doorway to that house or apartment.  Since then she has been sleeping in 4 star hotels, ridden on buses, a van, and taxis, flown on airplanes, and now lives in what by all accounts to her is a mansion.

The sounds and the familiar smells of China that engulfed her for 9 months are now a thing of the past. Oh sure, we have CDs and some food items from China that bring some familiarity to her, but basically it's all just. . well. . . different.  Add to this the addition of 4 brothers and a dog and yes, changing her internal time clock by 12 hours and you have even more adjustments to be made.

So how is our little girl handling all of it? Very well. Last night we slept from 10 PM to about 5 AM and was patted softly back to sleep through 6:45 AM.  She is enjoying PB& J sandwiches for lunch, bagels with cream cheese for breakfast, pasta for dinner, and certainly her 4 bottles every day that she drinks down with what only can be described as complete rapture.  She also rolls her eyes back in that rapturous state when you rub her tummy -- oh joy!  

We're having to wake her during her longer afternoon naps and then keep her awake as long as possible to get her though the nights and onto the new schedule but for the most part, Grace is handling it with a good spirit. She does love to be held and to see her new world so our time is not our own, but who can resist this little one when she smiles at you and reaches our her hands to be picked up. 

This morning she was playing with toys just within my legs on the floor but she turned and fussed to show me she wanted a change and wanted to be held. But the minute I held her, she was happy again and was eager to get back to those same toys - the difference being only that she was in my arms.  I say it again, how can you resist that kind of desire to be loved?  It reminded me anew of the deficit she has in her heart and of her need to be loved. The best way she knows how to do this is by reaching out to us to hold her. Oh, it does make life harder on us to get things done, but right now our job is to show her she can trust us -- that we won't let her down - that we will be there for her no matter what. 

I haven't been taking too many pictures. But here you will find a few snippets of life with Grace and we promise to start taking some more pics in the days ahead for those of you who want to continue to follow along with us in watching Grace adjust to us and us adjust to Grace. By the way -- she is now beginning to roll over, and sleep on her side.  She has a great desire right now to MOVE which means standing, rolling over, flexing - anything that has movement attached to it. I think that when our girl can crawl and feel more secure in her sitting and standing, this world will only get that much bigger for her!

Sharon